Oscar Wilde said that 'Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them; sometimes they forgive them'; perhaps only sometimes.....
When they were young, you shower them will all the love in the world, and they in turn do the same to you. But as children get bigger and become teenagers, they tend to appreciate the love their parents give them less and less, probably because with the advent of age, they require more of that love. They seem to feel that the love that parents give them is not enough anymore.
When they were young, children seem to feel appreciative of even the smallest things that parents given them and they would usually reciprocate by giving their parents a hug of love or at the very least a hug of thanks. But as children get bigger, small tokens of love that parents give seem to appear , well, small and often times worthless. A parent's love according to them should now come in big amounts, like big pocket money, big praises, big spending for clothes and gadgets! Everything must be big! Only then will children show that they love their parents; then again, perhaps not as big as how much has been spent on them!
Children don't seem to appreciate the love given to them in the form of the time parents spend with them or sitting at the table during lunch or dinner. They would much prefer to let their parents dine alone at the table while they eat while watching tv. Even when watching tv, they would prefer to quarrel with their siblings, ignoring their parents who are sitting with them; parents who are continuously ignored even when they are told not to quarrel!
Some people may say that is part and parcel of growing up. But in the process of growing up, children go all out to torture their parents' emotions, no matter how much parental guidance you give them. I guess, it could be due to age factor because as parents get older they become more sensitive. Unfortunately, children cannot sense that; or perhaps they choose not to!
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